Feeling like the intimacy in your relationship isn’t where you’d like it to be?
Intimacy is key to maintaining a healthy and long relationship – particularly a physical and emotional connection. Without intimacy and a strong connection it can be difficult to sustain a long lasting relationship. When you feel emotionally and physically intimate with your partner it’s better for your overall well being, without it it can lead to feelings of resentment and loneliness. Here are 5 great ways to reignite that connection and have more fun as a couple:
1. Make time together a priority
As unsexy as it might sound – try scheduling time to spend together. Put it into the calendar and make sure to prioritise this time for just the two of you. Switch off the work emails and slack messages so you can just enjoy each other’s company. Whether it’s a time for sex, or just time to touch, kiss and have a cuddle the time spent together should be made a priority.
2. Go to a sex shop together
Whether it’s in person or online, check out a sex shop together. See if there’s a toy you both might like to try and test it out. Stepping out of your comfort zone and exploring something that’s new for both of you can bring you closer as a couple. It can help spark conversations about what you enjoy, what else you’d be willing to try, or it just may lead to a good laugh!
Now this may seem odd to you as it’s a very individual experience but masturbation is key for any sexual relationship. It allows you to get to know yourself better, to know your likes and dislikes. If you know what you enjoy it will give you even more confidence to show your partner what you like or better yet communicate it to them.
4. Give positive reinforcement
Communication is key in any relationship especially when it comes to our likes and dislikes – we are all self-conscious beings (it’s part of what makes us human). So make the effort to reinforce things you like, by communicating and telling your partner when you enjoy something. Saying “I like when you did X” or “It felt great when you did Y.” We’re all just looking for positive reinforcement. Not only will you find your partner will become more confident but you’ll enjoy yourself more as well. It’s a win win!
5. Experiment Together
As mentioned above experimentation can really help your communication with your partner. Experimenting together allows you to try new things and explore without having to talk in detail about things, which can sometimes be uncomfortable or awkward.
Top Tip: try reading romance novels, erotic fiction or watching a sexy movie together – they can have great sexual suggestions in the storylines which gives you a safe way of suggesting it to your partner.