Feet, Sex Toys and Sexual Openness with Florence Bark of Come Curious

In this episode of Intimacy Play, Mikaela is joined by Florence Bark of Come Curious to discuss the story behind Come Curious, the what, why and how of sexual openness and a story about Florence and her feet during sex.

Learn more about Florence and Come Curious:

How Come Curious started

Florence met Come Curious co-founder Reed on the set of porn film where they were both working, they quickly started talking about sex. Through these conversations, both Florence and Reed started becoming more comfortable talking about sex…

They thought that if this worked for them, then maybe… if they filmed these conversations, more people would start to feel more comfortable talking about sex?

So they did… and Come Curious was born.

The problem with sex education

Florence believes that in traditional sex education, you only get taught about the bad things. Religion has also suppressed the amount of people that talk openly about sex. Florence states that: “we’re all here because of sex, yet we never talk about it”.

Removing the discussion, the fun and excitement from sex can negatively impact relationships. Whereas, if you can be more open about sex, you develop a better understanding of yourself and your body.

How to start being more open about sex

Florence states that the best way to start being more open with your partner about sex is the “sex debrief”. Post sex, you can share what you liked or disliked about the experience… and always remember to place the “improvement points” within a “compliment sandwich”.

Florence shares an interesting story about how a recent “sex debrief” answered a big question she had about a partner’s sexual preference.

Sex toys and sexual openness

Sex toys for women were introduced into the public conversation through Sex In The City in the 90’s, but sex toys for men is less of an open discussion.

Mikaela shares that sex toys can really open up a conversation about sex. For example, a man may not want to share that they enjoy “anal play”, but if their partner was to purchase a related sex toy… then that could help the couple discover this new area of pleasure.

Is there a drawback to being open about sex?

Florence shares that the only possible drawback from being more open about sex is judgement from other people that are less open about sex. For example, Florence’s father and uncle don’t really understand why Florence is so open about sex, Florence theorises that this could be because of their own insecurities.

That said, you can be as open as you want with whomever you want to be open with. Therefore, there is little to no drawback from being more open about sex with just your partner. For example, if Florence met a new partner’s parents, she may not share everything about what she does…

The Thirty Day Nude Challenge

Florence shares a game changing challenge: The Thirty Day Nude Challenge. You simply take a nude photo of yourself once per day for thirty days. You save these images in a private folder on your phone… you will be amazed at the results.

Mikaela agreed to take part in this challenge live on the show… we will keep you updated with the results!

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