Our sexuality is a natural and healthy part of who we are. It is a way of expressing our emotions, fantasies and ideologies and helps us to connect better with others. By increasing our sexual knowledge, our body responds with a boost of energy and pleasure. Sexual knowledge is also linked to our decisions and can have an impact on small things in our life such as attention and focus. So here’s 5 tips from Dr. Fernando Mesquita – Sexologist and Clinical Psychologist – to help give you an extra boost!
5 Ways to increase your pleasure:
1- Regular Masturbation
Masturbation has immense health benefits and can, and should be done, by men and women – yes by women too and without taboos – whether you are single or in a relationship. Masturbation promotes self-awareness of the body, which has been seen to show an increase in self-esteem and body image, and of course, allows for great pleasure. It is also a way to quietly explore, without pressure, what you like in order to indicate to a current or future partner. Couple Masturbation also increases intimacy levels. And if you incorporate sex toys, adventures can be more intense! One of the best known toys for male masturbation is the Tenga Egg – a silicone masturbator “egg” that allows you to experience excellent sensations. For women, the “basics” is a mini clitoral vibrator – small but powerful.
2- Do Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises strengthen and tone the pelvic area of both men and women, resulting in better bladder control and more intense orgasms.
And did you know that they can be done anywhere and anytime?
Find the muscles you use to hold urine, squeeze them for 3 seconds and relax for 3 seconds. Do 3 sets of 10 reps every day. Increase the number of repetitions and the intensity and duration of the exercises as your muscles get stronger.
After strengthening the muscles, try tightening them in the middle of sex, this can intensify pleasure for both individuals.
3- Dirty Talk
The brain is our largest sexual organ, even more powerful than the genital area. It is there that our limbic system works and sends a message of pleasure and excitement to the rest of the body.
“Dirty talk” is exciting because it activates several areas of the brain while the body can also be stimulated. Dirty talk into your partner’s ear, whispering all of your fantasies and the dirty details. Taboos do not exist, let your imagination run wild!
4- Break the routine
One of the most common issues among couples who have been together for a long time is sex becoming routine or not even included in the routine. Whether due to lack of time, tiredness or simply because you feel settled down. Where did that fire go and how do you get out of the dangerous “comfort zone”? Pleasy Play is a great way to get that spark back. Couples receive weekly surprise challenges, to perform together and receive a box of sex and erotic toys. it can be difficult to initiate sex or know how to change things up and Pleasy is a great way to shake things up.
5- Take Initiative
Doing is the first step to improving your sex life. From initiating sex to trying new things. Often one partner is waiting for the other partner to initiate, which leads to less sex and less pleasure. Have you seen a position that you would like to experience? Try it! Have you heard about a sex toy but are afraid of your partner’s reaction, don’t be! Buy and try. By taking the initiative you are taking control of your sex life and guaranteeing pleasure in quantity and quality.